Sixty Seconds of life
"As we grow up, we learn that even the one person that wasn't supposed to ever let you down probably will. You will have your heart broken probably more than once and it's harder every time. You'll break hearts too, so remember how it felt when yours was broken. You'll fight with your best friend. You'll blame a new love for things an old one did. You'll cry because time is passing too fast, and you'll eventually lose someone you love. So take too many pictures, laugh too much, and love like you've never been hurt because every sixty seconds you spend upset is a minute of happiness you'll never get back." ~ Original author unknown.
Perfect timing; a friend sent me this email which included the above this morning.
Background yesterday for Easter one of the things I did was go out to my Mom's for a fam bam dinner (I also brought my good friend with me) and my parents invited a couple they know (they always join us for holidays) After everyone left and my step-dad left to drop my little brother off at his place it was just my mom, my friend and myself sitting on the couch socializing and we got on the subject of the Red Hat Society and I was telling her the difference I noticed in Northern Cali and Southern Cali societies. On a trip to San Francisco one time I observed a group of red hat women and I was truly impressed; they exuded class, prestige, honor and a very lady like persona, it was really beautiful. Cut to about a year later I was walking around my downtown area and I noticed a group of ret hat women who sad to say did not exude or even give a hint of any of these attributes. Very disappointing to say the least. Well we talked about how the society started and how the woman who started it had cancer. My mom started talking about how you have to live life and enjoy the luxuries and the little things that you have, not to save your special perfume for that one special day because it will never come then before you know it it's over and your daughters will have to go thru your things and they find that special perfume and things that you never used because you were waiting for that day. She started crying, she was telling us about my grandmother who passed away several years ago. I remember it being really hard on my mom, she had to fly out to Georgia alone and be by her bedside while she lay in a coma (my grandmother collapsed one day from a blood clot in her brain stem, went into a coma and later died) We all were well aware of my grandmother's wishes to never be put on life support and be a vegetable. She had been in healthcare for many years and mentioned to all of us that this was something she did not want. Well my mom occasionally talks about this and I know it was very hard for her to deal with; you see in the beginning of my grandmother's coma she was able to respond to my mom's questions by squeezing her hand or moving one foot. This quickly stopped and it was clear that she would not recover so my mom who is all alone (none of her siblings or my step-dad could afford to fly out to Georgia at the time) had to be there when they pulled the life support, had to have her cremated, go thru her things and pack-ship some of it and then fly her back with her to bury her the way she wanted in California. I realize now how incredibly strong my mom had to be to do all this alone. Cut back to Easter night; she was crying saying how she just thought about having to go thru her mother's things and see all the things she was saving for that special day...Well I welled up and realized a lot about my mom in those moments. I thought about how I would one day have to do the same, my heart sank a little. She told us to enjoy every day that we have to the fullest; then I get this email. It's weird how life just is in sync sometimes.
I feel truly blessed to have some of the people I spent most of Easter with around me. They make me a better friend, teach me how to love more, imagine greater, humble myself, look on the bright side, breath easy, and how to become a better person. I am very thankful of this.
I had an amazing weekend. Thank you.
:)
Perfect timing; a friend sent me this email which included the above this morning.
Background yesterday for Easter one of the things I did was go out to my Mom's for a fam bam dinner (I also brought my good friend with me) and my parents invited a couple they know (they always join us for holidays) After everyone left and my step-dad left to drop my little brother off at his place it was just my mom, my friend and myself sitting on the couch socializing and we got on the subject of the Red Hat Society and I was telling her the difference I noticed in Northern Cali and Southern Cali societies. On a trip to San Francisco one time I observed a group of red hat women and I was truly impressed; they exuded class, prestige, honor and a very lady like persona, it was really beautiful. Cut to about a year later I was walking around my downtown area and I noticed a group of ret hat women who sad to say did not exude or even give a hint of any of these attributes. Very disappointing to say the least. Well we talked about how the society started and how the woman who started it had cancer. My mom started talking about how you have to live life and enjoy the luxuries and the little things that you have, not to save your special perfume for that one special day because it will never come then before you know it it's over and your daughters will have to go thru your things and they find that special perfume and things that you never used because you were waiting for that day. She started crying, she was telling us about my grandmother who passed away several years ago. I remember it being really hard on my mom, she had to fly out to Georgia alone and be by her bedside while she lay in a coma (my grandmother collapsed one day from a blood clot in her brain stem, went into a coma and later died) We all were well aware of my grandmother's wishes to never be put on life support and be a vegetable. She had been in healthcare for many years and mentioned to all of us that this was something she did not want. Well my mom occasionally talks about this and I know it was very hard for her to deal with; you see in the beginning of my grandmother's coma she was able to respond to my mom's questions by squeezing her hand or moving one foot. This quickly stopped and it was clear that she would not recover so my mom who is all alone (none of her siblings or my step-dad could afford to fly out to Georgia at the time) had to be there when they pulled the life support, had to have her cremated, go thru her things and pack-ship some of it and then fly her back with her to bury her the way she wanted in California. I realize now how incredibly strong my mom had to be to do all this alone. Cut back to Easter night; she was crying saying how she just thought about having to go thru her mother's things and see all the things she was saving for that special day...Well I welled up and realized a lot about my mom in those moments. I thought about how I would one day have to do the same, my heart sank a little. She told us to enjoy every day that we have to the fullest; then I get this email. It's weird how life just is in sync sometimes.
I feel truly blessed to have some of the people I spent most of Easter with around me. They make me a better friend, teach me how to love more, imagine greater, humble myself, look on the bright side, breath easy, and how to become a better person. I am very thankful of this.
I had an amazing weekend. Thank you.
:)
posted by HuneeB at 9:22 AM
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you're welcome.
dude that is a freaking excellent post
thanks :)
Love hearing you had a great weekend and Easter. Yup, you're blessed to have people around you that love you and make you a better person. Perfect combo. Big hug sweetie.
This was an awesome post, Hunee.
I have a friend my age who's been battling lymphoma for a couple years now. He's had 4 to 5 near-death experiences ( I mean, like, doctors had no idea how he survived) and each time he goes through these it becomes more and more clear to us how important it is that we live our lives the best we can.
I'm sure it was hard for your mom and I'm glad that you could see that in her and appreciate it for what it is. :)
Scum :)
Sass no thank you dancing is fun and comments make me happy!
Kathi thanks I felt so compeled to write this down esp after I got that email from my friend. I did have a great weekend and I really appreciate the hug xo Thanks Mom!
T; Wow I cna't imagine having to go thru that at this age! I think that some events like that really have a way of forcing you to reasses your goals and focus in life. My brother was told that he may need a new liver and new kidney b/c he was late diagnosed with severe diabeties and he is only 27. Thankfully he never drank, smoked or did drugs b/c it could be worse but it is still an awakening. I really feel like I need to readdress who I am and what's important to me because I think I got lost somewhere. This weekend was a blessing to me.
I am surprised that you all thought this was such a great post, I was writing to write. I felt like I didn't really get all that experienced out but I also think this will soak in over time. I do feel like something in me is changing and I am welcoming it, I think it is for the better. :) Thanks for all the hugs and support.
uhh sorry that has so many typos and sp errors...blah!
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