Tears of joy and tears of pain...
Advice on this one is welcome!
I have a friend who's world has been turned upside down! Poor thing is loosing her best friend, her lover, her home, and what she feels like is all her friends. I know all too well what this feels like and what strength it takes just to get out of bed. To make matters worse Monday was her first day at a new job where she is expected to perform and she can't think straight. Her heart has been crushed and the next thirty days are going to be even harder for her until they both move out of their place. Not to mention that she has to find a new place to live which isn't the easiest thing to do here since there are a million and one scummy rentals if you want to pay two arms a leg and a foot for a matchbook with mold and undoubtedly something broken. Finding a decent place to live is the challenge here in paradise. So I am helping her in any way that I can; I opened up my home to her and told her no worries she can stay here anytime she needs a break from her place and if she doesn't find a new place in time that she can stay here until she does, free. I made her a deal that she has to cook me dinner one night and she can stay as long as she needs. It's really no issue with me, I live in a one bedroom house alone so there is plenty of space plus I am hardly ever home so it doesn't bother me. I am really worried about her, I drooped off two flowers on her car window the other morning with a note. I wanted her to feel like she has friends and not so alone. I know how upside-down her world is right now and how lost and alone she feels, I've had my heart broken before too. Not a good place to be. It is hard when you commit yourself and your life to one person 100% and it just doesn't work out, you can't help but think what is wrong with me? What did I do? Sometimes realizing that you can move on is the toughest thing to do. All I can do is tell her it is going to hurt and you have to take one day at a time in baby steps and eventually it will be okay. Not to worry about the small stuff like moving or your job b/c those things just have a way of falling into place. I know that she has the strength to get through this I just hope that she sees that she does too. She will and time will heal but it will be a long road for her.
So does anyone have any heart-break advice?
Oh and I have been so busy this past week, with hanging out with my heart-broken friend, work full-time, school (my classes are pretty hard right now) and I have been spending a gang of time with my other friend who had her baby last Friday/Saturday. Friday after work I went to the hospital (she had been there since 3pm it was now 11pm...Poor thing) and I stayed there with her fam bam until she pushed her 8lb 4ounce, 20 1/2 inches, beautiful baby girl, Marayah out into the world at 3:02 am Saturday. Her aunt is my friend so that is how I met her. Well I ended up going to bed at 8am on Saturday; Siouxsie and I were so excited and awake from being there all night that we went back to my place. I saw that the school across the street was watering their lawn so I made S put on a sweater of mine and took her outside then just took off, I didn't tell her what I was doing I just made a run for the sprinklers and she followed. So we spent a good 30 minutes playing in the sprinklers laughing and having a blast, I don't think I have done that since I was maybe like 10 or so. Then we went back to my pad took showers and changed and decided that the sun was due to come up so we went to the beach and swung on the swings to watch the sunrise. Well about an hour and a half into it we decided it was too foggy to see the sun and we went home and crashed out. So far she is a really good baby she hardly cries and I love babies so it's fun for me :) So life has been pretty full but I am good. I love summer!
Say a prayer or a nice thought for my friend please, she needs it :) Thanks guys!
I have a friend who's world has been turned upside down! Poor thing is loosing her best friend, her lover, her home, and what she feels like is all her friends. I know all too well what this feels like and what strength it takes just to get out of bed. To make matters worse Monday was her first day at a new job where she is expected to perform and she can't think straight. Her heart has been crushed and the next thirty days are going to be even harder for her until they both move out of their place. Not to mention that she has to find a new place to live which isn't the easiest thing to do here since there are a million and one scummy rentals if you want to pay two arms a leg and a foot for a matchbook with mold and undoubtedly something broken. Finding a decent place to live is the challenge here in paradise. So I am helping her in any way that I can; I opened up my home to her and told her no worries she can stay here anytime she needs a break from her place and if she doesn't find a new place in time that she can stay here until she does, free. I made her a deal that she has to cook me dinner one night and she can stay as long as she needs. It's really no issue with me, I live in a one bedroom house alone so there is plenty of space plus I am hardly ever home so it doesn't bother me. I am really worried about her, I drooped off two flowers on her car window the other morning with a note. I wanted her to feel like she has friends and not so alone. I know how upside-down her world is right now and how lost and alone she feels, I've had my heart broken before too. Not a good place to be. It is hard when you commit yourself and your life to one person 100% and it just doesn't work out, you can't help but think what is wrong with me? What did I do? Sometimes realizing that you can move on is the toughest thing to do. All I can do is tell her it is going to hurt and you have to take one day at a time in baby steps and eventually it will be okay. Not to worry about the small stuff like moving or your job b/c those things just have a way of falling into place. I know that she has the strength to get through this I just hope that she sees that she does too. She will and time will heal but it will be a long road for her.
So does anyone have any heart-break advice?
Oh and I have been so busy this past week, with hanging out with my heart-broken friend, work full-time, school (my classes are pretty hard right now) and I have been spending a gang of time with my other friend who had her baby last Friday/Saturday. Friday after work I went to the hospital (she had been there since 3pm it was now 11pm...Poor thing) and I stayed there with her fam bam until she pushed her 8lb 4ounce, 20 1/2 inches, beautiful baby girl, Marayah out into the world at 3:02 am Saturday. Her aunt is my friend so that is how I met her. Well I ended up going to bed at 8am on Saturday; Siouxsie and I were so excited and awake from being there all night that we went back to my place. I saw that the school across the street was watering their lawn so I made S put on a sweater of mine and took her outside then just took off, I didn't tell her what I was doing I just made a run for the sprinklers and she followed. So we spent a good 30 minutes playing in the sprinklers laughing and having a blast, I don't think I have done that since I was maybe like 10 or so. Then we went back to my pad took showers and changed and decided that the sun was due to come up so we went to the beach and swung on the swings to watch the sunrise. Well about an hour and a half into it we decided it was too foggy to see the sun and we went home and crashed out. So far she is a really good baby she hardly cries and I love babies so it's fun for me :) So life has been pretty full but I am good. I love summer!
Say a prayer or a nice thought for my friend please, she needs it :) Thanks guys!
posted by HuneeB at 7:11 AM
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oi
i mean oi
like damm.
i can only tell her one thing for sure. she will get through this and she will be both stronger and happier than she was with him.
for sure.
Wow, so sorry for your friend. Glad she has you, you're probably the only thing holding her up sometimes.
It'll take time, some smiles and laughs with friends, and hopefully she'll find that it's easier to be happy alone than miserable in a bad relationship.
Thanks girls :) I will pass on the wise words.
This weekend should be interesting, her ex is moving out all the furniture and she doesn't think that she can take it so she is gonna stay with me and I promised her that one night we would go out dancing. :) I just hope that she can feel comfortable.
My thoughts and prayers are with your friend Huneeb. Im sorry Im late on this post as it seems that too my world is a little off kilter with work.
yuk
the best advice i could give is keep doing what you're doing. If I were losing as much as she I think that your hospitality and love and care are exactly the right prescription to your ailment.
I think you're doing the right thing by being supportive and damn you're a great friend for extending your arms and your home to her.
Every body should be lucky enough to have a wonderful person like you in their lives.
Now, lets hit the sprinklers!
Loveums!
Hooray for sprinklers!!! :)
Thanks Em, I hope that your workload calms a bit unless of course it is good for your future carear that it is busy now then I just hope that you get some help with it all, I am sure the Mr. is willing ;)
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